Isaac wrote:
Here are my thoughts on this issue.
So far, I've
apologized twice both for the uncalled for and/or immature actions taken by certain posters (including various forms of harassment and unprovoked insults) towards me, and for any actions that I myself might have taken that might have accidentally caused any offense or disruption of the forum. I certainly didn't mean anybody any harm by anything I've done.
The fact that these posters continue to show hatred towards me, spreading lies about me (claiming I've said things I've never said; the laughably flimsy claims that I've edited old posts to make me look good and later lied about making the posts in the first place), starting eight threads suggesting that I should be banned (this one was started after my first apology was posted) when I have never started that many threads to suggest the banning of any one poster, (and in no cases have I suggested that a poster be banned that hasn't seriously broken the rules of the forum), and also in spite of the fact that I haven't broken any of the forum's rules, and I've been a respected, valued contributer to this board for six years.
I may seem a bit rash at times, but I've never flat out attacked anyone without provocation, despite claims to the contrary. I've always had kind of a defensive attitude, often I've found myself being provoked into engaging in a spit match with another to defend my honor and integrity. I try not to do this, I know that people who try to pick fights with me for no reason are less intelligent than I am, and it's kind of ridiculous when I try to lower myself to their level of immaturity.
And it's ridiculous that Galoot, Lumpy, etc. are still claiming that I've been "throwing tantrums", that I'm an "asshole", "spoiled obnoxious brat", when they have behaved far worse than I ever have and haven't had 8 threads devoted to each's proposed banning. I started a new "Word Association" thread for this year that ended up being
bombarded by trolling and insults from these people. They can't possibly defend that kind of crap. (Or calling me a
manic depressive schizo who hears voices in his head and claiming that I don't have a sense of humor.)
In a previous post, I've suggested that I be made a moderator because, early on I've taken the ideas of moderation and censorship hand in hand, and along the way I've learned that this absolutely not true. While I still feel that we shouldn't have a censor, we probably would have been better off having someone who posts on here regularly who can merge similar threads and lock up (or delete) abusive threads like those that Slime bumped last week, so we can prevent crap like this from happening. This past week would have never happened if we had an active moderator.
(And, Galoot and SpaceBro, if you two actually expect me to believe that 25 actual people actually voted to have me banned, I've got some
fantastic real estate deals for you two.)
(Lumpy and Zombie--thanks for the fantastically one-sided account of the times when I've stopped in the chat room. Couldn't help but leave out the fact that I was repeatedly defended by others, that people said that they
didn't want me banned, or that posts about me by you and others were referred to as 'immature'? I guess you're too busy lying about how "hopeless" I am, and referring to me as "troubled," "schizo," etc. because you can't handle the fact that not everybody hates me?)
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-The thing about "apologizing for the uncalled for and/or immature actions taken by certain posters (including various forms of harassment and unprovoked insults) towards me" is that it's not an apology. It's offending the people you refer to, and therefore putting it on a slippery slope.
You're responsible for taking too hard on other people's remarks and actions, and reacting in a way that is definitely not making matters better, but letting the spiral go further. You did something stupid, you're at fault for that. Don't point your finger at other people.
There is no need for you to bump 216 threads, there never was, and there never will be. Nobody drove you to it. If you think it did, you may have problems beyond this thread and I urge you to get off the internet and into something social.
If people react in a negative way (by calling names) to you, it may be because you said something stupid. Unfortunately not all people show the kind way of disapproving. Don't take up on that, just try to see if you said something you shouldn't have, and then shut up. Be the smart one.
(The following lesson comes from 14 years of being bullied.)
When you're being teased or whatever, it tends to try to provoke your reaction. If you don't react, it will diminish and eventually stop. If you overreact, it will continue and grow worse, to which you overreact again, o which they tease and all that. Why the others may be at fault, there is a choice between getting a moderator to tell the others off, or you to stamp in the ground and bite your teeth. The first one will definitely not make you popular, or liked. Instead you'll be an unnecessary addition, a log, and the teasing may start again when the moderator is not looking.
Best bet is to lay low, only speak when you're spoken to, and gradually move into a circle. It may be a hard path, but it's still the best one.
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